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lazy Saturday; just how I like it.

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Today has been awesome. I really haven’t done anything at all. Why can’t every day be like this? James is in Savannah, so I have been lounging at the house alone. I watched Paris is Burning (fantastic documentary), and learned all about the New York City ball scene in the late eighties. It was really interesting to say the least, and it was a real blast from the past to hear names like Alexis Carrington and Christy Brinkley being referred to as fashion icons. I highly recommend it.

Other than that, I just ran some errands, which was pretty uneventful; well, other than the exchange I had when I got my Green Tea Frappuccino from Starbucks (yay! they are back!). I told the barista that I didn’t want the creme on top, and she responded with, “well, I’ll just eat your creme then”. Okay, you do that. I wonder if she got the sexual innuendo she was throwing my way with that one. Green Tea Frappuccino and sex talk. Thank you Starbucks.

I also saw a bunch of guys at the grocery store with prominent and visible tattoos… perhaps my “waiting” for my next one won’t be as long as I had previously thought. I may be getting one very soon. Stay tuned. Happy Weekend bitches! And thanks to Dave, Lori, Barry, and Rebekah for a KICK ASS time last night. I think that I drank my body weight in alcohol… and loved every minute of it. We should definitely do that again soon.

ONE MORE THING: A few people mentioned that they couldn’t tell a difference in my tweaks to the template, so click here to see what it used to look like.

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new-ish template?!!

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A few people said they liked my template, but I did feel the need to tweak this one a bit… thoughts?? Or do you want the old one back? Or do you want me to change more?! Feedback is appreciated. Thanks! Happy Friday!

UPDATE: For the record, IE sucks ass. SUCKS ASS!!!! I fixed it for all you IE viewers though. Damn!

UPDATE 2: I know that this isn’t the most exciting post, but I did work on it, so I figured I would get you to comment on it. Either way, really. Now, about the drinking stigma post from yesterday; basically, I got the message that I shouldn’t worry about it, because other people feel it too (on both sides of the fence). So to celebrate, I am going to go out drinking tonight with blog buddies. Join us, if you want; but we will be… dare I say it… DRINKING!

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take one down, pass ’em around…

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Today is kind of all over the place for me… no real ability to concentrate; but hey, we all have those days, right? I have thought about changing my template, but I can’t seem to find anything that I am super happy with. Any suggestions? Anything you like? Don’t like? Anything you just neeeeed? Well, say it here, and I will take it into consideration.

I have kind of been giving some thought to drinking lately; no, not just the usual, “hey, I think I want to drink” stuff, but more about what the act signifies for me and other people around me. I in no way consider myself an alcoholic; mainly because I know that I don’t need to drink to have a good time, and basically because I don’t feel the need to drink every day. I don’t crave alcohol, and I actually know when to stop drinking, as to prevent myself from getting wasted or getting sick. (I just wanted to go ahead and put that out there; before I go any further…)

With that being said, the reason I was thinking about this, is because sometimes I feel like people judge me for enjoying drinking. No, that doesn’t mean that people point and stare, or whatnot, but I do feel like sometimes, some people look at me with a, “I can’t believe you want to drink” or “how can you still be drinking” thought in the backs of their minds.

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I’m late!! I’m late! I’m late! (later, latest…)

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I was thinking about it this morning just like every morning, as I hit the alarm for the 4th time; there is one thing about me that I really hate, and would love to change, but for some reason, never do. I hate being late, but it seems that I always am. Now, I wasn’t always late, in fact, I used to be known for being a little early. Perhaps I was a little overzealous, but I would always be around 10 minutes early for everything. I do recall that this was mostly during the time I was in college; but nevertheless, I was almost always a little early. But once I got out of college, being late kind of took over. Add a relationship to that, and it kind of spirals out of control from there. Sometimes, I am no more than a few minutes late, which really isn’t that big of a deal; but when you combine James and me together, that few minutes can turn into a long time.

I know that this really bugs people and hell, it even bugs me, but for some reason, I can’t seem to get my ass in gear enough to be early or on time for anything. Does anyone else out there have a similar problem?

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phooey…

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For some reason, I really couldn’t fall asleep last night, as I was riddled with anxiety and whatnot; which has led to me feeling kind of down today. I want everyone to keep the abortion talk going though, because I still think that it is a great thread discussion, and I don’t want to kill it. I just kind of feel like the frowning guy here.

Don’t worry, I am not depressed or as Tom Cruise would say, faking it and just needing to get over it. No worries. I am just a little stressed about money and things. But who isn’t right? Well, that’s true, but it doesn’t stop the anxiety, let me tell you. I just wish that for once, I could get a leg up, and finally not feel so inundated with things coming at me left and right sucking all of the money right out of my pockets. I swear, if I could just win that damn lottery, none of this would be a worry to me any more. Or, if I could somehow stumble on a kick ass, really high paying job; that wouldn’t be that bad either. I know that I am very lucky, and definitely know that there are people out there that are way worse off than me; but honestly, that just worries me even more: how do those people make it? How does one survive on anything less than I make, if I am just getting by? I don’t live an extravagant lifestyle, so where is it going?

Ugh. Some days can be frustrating. Maybe I will feel better after the hockey game tonight… If not, at least pay day is on Friday… oh wait… that money is already allocated, shit. Back to the drawing board… Here’s hoping that once I am in my thirties I am more comfortable financially, like all of my other friends are. Yeah! That is something to hope for!!! See?!?! Ending on a positive note here folks! (no seriously, that’s the best you’re going to get today; I suggest you take it.)

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pro-choice is NOT pro-abortion

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Now, I don’t want to go into a diatribe, but I do want to add to what I was talking about in my post about abortion yesterday. Basically, this desire to continue what I was saying, came from the news coverage of the anti-abortion rallies going on all around the country, right now; but more specifically, it was a comment that I read on Joseph’s blog last night. A blogger commented that he was adopted, and was therefore against abortion, because if abortion were legal, then he may not have been born. Now, I don’t want to single this person out, and I don’t want to say that they are not entitled to there opinion; an old roommate of mine was in the same situation, and held the same point of view. But, I do believe that line of thinking is both misinformed and dangerously ignorant. See, saying that you are for abortion laws, does not mean that you want everyone to get an abortion. Just because people have the right to have an abortion, doesn’t mean they necessarily will; but if they do, it is a decision that they should make, not the government. Many women have the option of abortion right now, and still choose to carry a pregnancy to term, and use adoptive services. The adoption services of this country are overflowing with children right this very moment because of these countless examples of choosing to carry the pregnancy to term; so I believe it is unfair to place the imposition of “abortion right = abortion practice”, on the right to choose. In my opinion, that is taking it a little too far.

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33rd anniversary of Roe v. Wade

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Today, January 22, marks the 33rd anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the monumental case that deemed the laws against abortion of that time, to be a violation of a citizen’s constitutional right to privacy in the United States. While I am definitely pro-choice, I know that there are many out there that are not, and by maintaining a constant and more centered focus on this very important issue, I believe that those of us that believe in the right to privacy and the freedom to make the decision on how one’s own body and life are treated, can have a positively effect on lawmaking and decision making. By continually talking about and fighting for these rights, we can get those that oppose it to listen.

Having these rights are fundamental, and are essential, especially in our current political climate. If Roe v. Wade were to be overturned by the Supreme Court, it would undoubtedly be one of many laws that would restrict freedom and impose unfair and discriminatory laws on many of the citizens of this country. I will always maintain a pro-choice stance, for I believe that it is the right of every woman to choose what she can and cannot do with her own body, health, and life. Please, let’s continue to rally for these freedoms, in hopes that the right wing agenda and regime doesn’t defeat and silence our freedoms.

Speak up and speak out: Roe v. Wade needs to hear from you. We all have to keep up the fight to protect our freedoms, and rights to privacy. Women should be able to have control over their own bodies, now, and forever.

Here’s the wikipedia entry on Roe v. Wade, if you want more info. Also check out Bush v. Choice, a pro-choice blog, where the image above is from. Thanks, Amber for the heads up.

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“YES!”

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This is perhaps one of my favorite pictures ever taken of me. I love it, it really makes me laugh. Sometimes I even surprise myself at the craziness that I am capable of. Thanks Lori for capturing such a fantastic moment, whatever it was…

Here’s hoping that your Sunday is as exciting as the portrayal in this photo. YES! Great shot Lori!

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oh well… can’t win ’em all, I guess

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So, apparently, no one was moved by yesterday’s post. Not even enough for one comment. Did it suck that bad? Sigh… I fear that what it really is, is one of my biggest “no-nos” may have become reality; am I posting too many diatribes? Ugh, I certainly hope not; because that is the last thing I want. For both your sake, and mine.

So, in the spirit of keeping things interesting, and blatant attempts to have a diatribe-free Saturday, I thought I would include these little photos of Paul Walker. That’s right, I wanted to switch it up from Jake Gyllenhaal a little bit. This doesn’t mean I am cheating on Jake, but ever since I saw Into the Blue this past week (which, by the way, was actually a pretty decent movie), I have to say that Paul is one hot boy. No diatribe for today coupled with pictures of Paul Walker? How can this be wrong?

UPDATE: Since Brian asked so nicely, I thought I would give back a little to my straight male and lesbian readers. So, in the spirit of togetherness, I present, the smoking hot Jessica Alba, also from Into the Blue. I do admit, she is just as hot, if not hotter than, Paul Walker.

[as usual, I don’t claim these pics to be mine, yo.]

play that track one more time:
Beck – Devil’s Haircut

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let’s go… nananana… OUT TONIGHT!

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Last night was the blogger outing (APWBWGTTD) I discussed in my post yesterday, and all I can say is, it shouldn’t be legal to have so much fun. I remember when I first moved to Atlanta, and I used to go out with friends all of the time, and now that I am “married” (I wish I could remove the “”), I do long for those nights where I would just hang out and get drunk with cool people again (this is not to suggest that I don’t love being “married”, in fact, I DO!). Last night was definitely like one of those nights I remember, and I had a blast. AND, there were Irish Car Bombs, so you know I was happy. Oh how I love you, sweet, sweet Irish Car Bombs. Muwah! But enough about alcohol… at least until later this afternoon.

Interestingly enough, one of the underlying themes of many conversations last night, in one way or another, was about what people do/are doing/were doing/will be doing/want to be doing/etc. with respect to jobs and whatnot. While I will not talk about my job on this blog (I’m sticking to that! I don’t want to be dooced.), I do want to point out that I really think, especially after talking with people last night, that this article, has hit the nail on the head. The article looked at a study done by two people, where they surveyed Gen Xers, in order to find out how they felt about their jobs, what they wanted in a job, and what was most important to them when looking for a job.

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