Category: sex (oh yeah)

two things Tuesday: evolution and condoms

Kind of different; kind of the same, no? Both of these things have people up in arms, and I just wanted to throw in my two cents; for whatever it’s worth.

Evolution:
Basically, the issue with evolution (this time), is that a local republican state representative sent out a memo stating that evolution shouldn’t be taught in schools because it is a religious deception that was derived from an ancient Jewish religious sect. Basically, his memo is stating that evolution not actually secular science, and is instead a so-called “creation scenario”, that is actually based on the “Christ hating” ancient Jews, and that it was written a couple millenia ago. Okay, let me get this straight, the Jews made up the Big Bang theory? Those crazy Jews came up with this myth to explain the beginning of the world and to explain life on earth, and they called it evolution?! Damn! They are crazy!!! OH WAIT, YOU DOUCHE, not only are you being anti-semitic (surprise), the Jews didn’t make up the Big Bang theory, and it actually isn’t a myth, it is a theory that is still pondered by scientists. You do know what scientists are, don’t you? They are people that use facts to put together ideas about things… and in this case, they continually use the facts they know about and learn about the world, and all of the stuff in it, in order to come up with a good idea of where it came from. See, the difference between a myth and theory, is that one is based on science, and one isn’t. Okay? So it’s pretty clear to me, and MANY others, that evolution is science, and is not a myth. You can believe that if you want, but leave the Jews out of it, okay? And don’t try to use this as your crazy Christian reasoning for keeping it out of schools, you anti-Semite!

Obviously, he denies writing the memo, but regardless if he actually wrote it or not, it goes without saying that people like this guy shouldn’t be allowed to have any political power; all they do is confuse those that are already ignorant. You know that there is going to be someone out there that supports this “idea”, and that is just one person too many. Also, to further illustrate his memo’s off-the-wallness, not only is he saying this about evolution, he also believes that the earth isn’t rotating, and that we aren’t actually going around the sun. I suppose sunrise and sunset are magic then, right? Ugh, people like this make me want to just bang my head on my desk and scream, WTF!?!?! The Anti-Defamation League is going after him, so I hope that he isn’t re-elected. If people like this make it into politics, that is one more reason to fear the government, right? Jesus.

Condoms:

So, NYC has a great idea; let’s make a NYC condom, and hand it out FOR FREE all over the city, in order to curtail the incidence of HIV!! Sounds good, right? It does to me!!! HELL YEAH!

But of course… “NO!”, shouts the Catholic Church. The Catholic Church came out against the condom, stating that you should practice abstinence before marriage, and practice fidelity within marriage to prevent HIV. (They’ve also preached up and down in the past about how condoms aren’t effective at preventing HIV anyway, which they are totally wrong about). Hmm… Let’s look at this from their perspective: perhaps 95000+ known cases of HIV in NYC, is evidence that they are doing such a good job of what you want already, that there is no need for something OTHER than that old abstinence/marriage shtick. Oh, 95000 sounds like a lot to you? Well, it does to me too! Perhaps what you are saying isn’t working? Oh snap!

Listen, if you don’t approve of contraception, realize that condoms do more than that, they protect against HIV! THAT is the reason this program was started… to decrease the incidence of HIV in NYC!! I am so sick of religion poking its nose in issues related to health; it is pretty clear that they have absolutely no idea that what they say and what they do actually causes more health problems. If you really cared, and if you were actually as compassionate as your religion dictates that you should be, then you would want more people to live life without suffering from chronic diseases; regardless of your views on sex. Free condoms won’t increase sex, it will allow for future sex to be SAFER sex… And that is a great thing. All I have to say is a HUGE Bravo(!!!!!) to NYC, and an even bigger BOO(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) to the Catholic Church. I would like to know: when are we, as a society, going to be mature enough to stop putting our heads in the religious sand and actually do something about sexually transmitted diseases, like HIV? We have got to get over this fear of sex, or we will NEVER get rid of HIV, and that scares me, because I truly don’t know if we are all capable of such logical thinking; enough to actually make changes and decrease disease. I do have hope when I see cities like NYC taking it seriously, though… Perhaps Atlanta will follow suit?? Come on you guys! Don’t be afraid of the church! They will get their panties all tied up in knots, while we all can have access to free condoms… it’s a win win, as far as I see it. Way to stick to your guns, NYC, and show your dedication to public health.

would you talk to your children about sex?

I am just curious to find out from all of you out there what your thoughts are on this subject. I for one, was not talked to by my parents about sex, and as probably somewhat of a result, I have a very weird view of sex. I used to see it as deviant, as something that you only did when you were married, and as something that I was very uncomfortable with. Not anymore of course, since I took years to work through all of that, and learned that sex was just as natural as the most basic and primal actions we partake in, but it was a journey nonetheless. And was it, at least in part, because I didn’t learn anything about it from my parents? Possibly. Maybe. I’ll never truly know where those views came from, but I do know that being without the knowledge I have about sex now, definitely contributed to those feelings about it from when I was younger until more recently.

More importantly, I give the above question thought because of the state of the world today. If and when I decide to have children many years from now (many), I will want the best for my children. I will dote on them as parents do, and I will do my best to teach them about the world and what I have learned. I will, however, not make the same mistakes my parents made with me (God willing), one of which, includes talking to them and teaching them about their bodies and their natural urges, and God forbid; sex.

come on baby loosen up my buttons…

And spank me. Piss on me. Do what you will with me.

No, that wasn’t an invitation, it was just to start the conversation interestingly. See, this morning, I was thinking about what I have been doing at work lately. See, we read about people’s sexual histories and proclivities all day long. As great as that sounds, I honestly get tired of hearing about unhealthy sex practices. But that is not what I want to talk about. It has been a while since I talked about sex, and I thought that this was pretty interesting; at least one of my coworkers referred to alternative sexual practices as weird and frankly deviant. And, while I agree, I don’t see the allure of having someone piss on your face, I don’t agree that it is weird or deviant.

Now wait a second, okay, just hear me out. It took an awfully long time for me to A) become comfortable with my sexuality and sexual nature, and B) become comfortable enough with myself and my partner to ask for and do what I wanted sexually with him. To me, if you have the courage (and frankly the sense) to ask for what you want in bed (albeit that bed may be covered with rubber sheets), and do what you turns you on sexually, you are actually the furthest from deviant in my mind, you are what I would like to call fulfilled.

another “sex” post…

But this time, nature is the one that came. Seriously, there is tree semen everywhere, and my nose is more than inflamed. I am also loopy from my decongestant (that isn’t working; other than to just disorient me, and distract me from the fact that I can’t breathe), so there isn’t going to be much substance to today’s post. But, interestingly enough, it does make me think of what the drag queen Coco Peru, said in Trick, “You ever get come* in your eye Gabriel, HMM? It BURNS.” Well, kindly, nature didn’t come* in my eye, but my nose sure as hell burns. And, it is stuffy. Boo!

Bobafred (and surely many others of you out there) totally feels my pain. I don’t think that people who don’t live in ATL understand… I know that it is bad other places, but it is just dreadful here; apparently, the pollen count was the highest ever recorded yesterday. Damn tree reproduction. May all of our sinuses be saved from nature’s big O! Good for you nature, glad you got there and all, but bad for the rest of us. Oy.

[picture from billsantoro.com]

*I know I didn’t spell “come” in that way, but I honestly get enough weird searches without adding fuel to the fire

UPDATE: Apparently, the haze I am in is thick; somehow comments got turned off. DAMN YOU SPRING!!! They are back on now.

to circumcise or not: that is the question.

Apparently, it’s a sexy, sex-filled week here at duanemoody.com; here we go again… A friend of mine just phoned to tell me that her and her partner are having a boy! While I am very excited for them, she did ask me a question that got me thinking; and that I am curious to get other opinions on. And, since it kind of continues on the sex binge we have been having this week… why not, right?

She wanted to know, truthfully, if I were to have a son, would I circumcise him, or not? Well, I honestly have about 10,000,000 reasons why I wouldn’t circumcise my son, so I emphatically said ‘no’. And let me tell you why I feel this way. And then, you can tell me what you think about all this skin nonsense… First of all, I believe that the practice is completely barbaric. If you want your child circumcised, I think that you should watch a video of a boy being circumcised. Any type of circumcision is not good in my book. Female, male, whomever, circumcision equals bad news.

I’d like to have a talk about little thing I call… SEX.

After my post on Sex and the City yesterday, I just couldn’t get the thought of sex and sexuality out of my head (no, not like that dirty birds). I also found it interesting, which totally inspired this post (in a way), that people tended to focus on things like ratings and revenue; rather than the issue I was actually trying to get at: why is the subject of sex so risqué for television, so much so that it must be edited to the bare bones, rather than just celebrated and shown? This is not to say that anyone that focused on revenue and ratings is wrong, in fact, quite the contrary; it shows me that you and I are thinking about the same thing, but looking at it in different ways (at least in this case). It also illustrates that we tend to look for other reasons than the marginalization of sex and sexuality, before we examine the taboos that we sometimes unknowingly abide by. But we’ll get to that, so hold on.

What I really want to know is: why is it that sex is so demonized in this country? Why is it that sex has been so demonized over time? Is it just the church? Is it just religion? Why is sex seen as something that is so dirty and forbidden; so much so, that we either don’t talk about it, fight against it, or make fun of it? (The resulting thoughts are actually a long post, so I do apologize for the length; but, it is a topic that I find very interesting, and I am very interested in your thoughts. If you can bare to make it through – it’s not that long -, let’s have a discussion, shall we?)

scared of sex (and the city)?

It seems that Comcast took my statement that no one reads the blog on Saturday or Sunday a little too seriously; we were without internet service all day yesterday. It is funny though, because we actually went to the park, walked around, ran errands, and stuff like that. Usually, it would have taken us forever to get motivated, and we would have just sat there forever… maybe it was a blessing in disguise. But, the side effect was no blogging. But enough about that…

Lately, and since there really is nothing of substance on TV to watch anymore, James and I find ourselves channel surfing at night, and as of late, have ended up more than one night watching Will and Grace followed by Sex and the City on TBS or the WB. While I generally enjoy both of those shows, I must say that the eternal analytical anthropologist in me has taken notice of at least one major flaw in our new nightly programming; someone took the sex out of Sex and the City.