Comments on: come on baby loosen up my buttons…

By: Simon

Simon — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 05:25:48 +0000

I’m possibly the least sexually adventurous or “deviant” person you’re likely to find (unless you consider being gay deviant) but I’ve always liked the idea of being peed on. In the shower of course, and while naked. Not in bed or all over the sofa. The cleaning up afterwards would not be much fun.

By: duane

duane — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 00:15:58 +0000

doug, yeah, urine is actually completely sterile. In fact, it is the most purely sterile at the time it is leaving the body, so being pissed on would be the freshest most sterile way to interact with urine. I can’t believe I just typed that. LOL!

By: Rich

Rich — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 16:05:39 +0000

I think this is a very interesting post. I also work in the field of sexual health and spend a fair amount of my day talking to people about their sex lives. I have also experienced similar frustrations over time about issues of safety, not so much over what anyone does but around my inability to successfully facilitate change.
I agree that people who have the guts and maturity to accept, develope and talk about their sexual interests are indeed “fulfilled”. And in response to Dougs comments above. I think that it can be true that certain “fetishistic” behaviors (by fetishistic I generally mean an inability to enjoy a variety of sexual activities without this particular element or theme being present)may have a psychological root that might need to be examined particularly when the behavior limits someones ability to enjoy other areas of a relationship that THEY want to persue, or to help them accept their interest and find a place for it in their lives. However the labels of “deviant” and “repulsive” are deeply offensive to me.

By: Amber

Amber — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 12:38:22 +0000

Urinating on someone is just not hygenic (in fact I think it is downright repulsive) and there has to be something in that person that they just aren’t facing.

Actually, urine isn’t all that unsanitary.

And, when you say there has to be some psychological problem with the person - how can you know that? You know, people used to say the same thing about gay sex - some still do. Blanket statements like that just send up a red flag for me. Sure, there may be some people in whom an interest in certain sex acts signifies unaddressed psychological issues. But who are you to presume that this is the case for everyone who enjoys a particular sex act? Couldn’t it be that just maybe, some people have truly examined their sexual interests and determined what works for them in a healthy and self-realizing way? As has been mentioned already in this thread, I think pointing the finger and making broad generalizations says more about the speaker than the person they’re accusing of being “deviant.”

By: Jason

Jason — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 11:41:41 +0000

Er, big “whatever” to Doug’s comments up there.

But anyway, I’ve seen a lot regarding this sort of thing, and it never ceases to fascinate me.

I met this one guy in Florida who couldn’t get aroused unless you stood on his face. And while I felt bad for him that he was so sexually limited to this one type of stimulation, I thought he was hot, and well, speaking for myself, I would’ve stood on his face any fucking day of the week.

Honestly, I have a few specific interests myself, but I think sometimes it’s even more of a turn on to find out what another person’s fetishes are. In my experience I’d have to say overall, there’s little I wouldn’t do to turn someone on that I found attractive. There’s exceptions, of course, but deviant? I think it only qualifies as “deviant” when it brings harm to someone else. Otherwise, what’s wrong with any of it, no matter how “weird” it might be?

By: Jay

Jay — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 10:26:32 +0000

Neat post. Sorry I don’t have anything earth-shattering to say. Except that I like sex…alot (big shocker there I know). See, I told ya I didn’t have anything earth-shattering to say.

And if bondage and a varied free sexual lifestyle isn’t your thing, you can always live vicariously through this guy: http://www.completelynaked.org/in_puris_naturalibus/

By: doug

doug — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 06:25:14 +0000

I am in a bit of a disagreement here. Although I think there are some erotic fantasies that are not vanilla, many of them stem from a deeper psychological problem. Urinating on someone is just not hygenic (in fact I think it is downright repulsive) and there has to be something in that person that they just aren’t facing. I also think bondage is a little weird but I guess if it is in your own home. But I have been to a bar that once had a public flogging (luckily I was not there that night) and I don’t think others should have to be subjected to it. For god’s sake, that is what Prozac and therapy are for!

By: Jake

Jake — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 04:13:06 +0000

Yeah, it’s amazing how scary it can be to actually talk to your partner(s).

By: T. Johnston

T. Johnston — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 22:41:37 +0000

Great topic for Friday! I have a rather kinky side in me D, I’m thinking maybe I should post about it and I also like older men. ie, the daddy/son role. Bet you never knew that!

By: Wendy

Wendy — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 22:25:24 +0000

What a HOT topic for a Friday!! I think fear keeps you from talking about pleasure in sex. I can’t get into having sosmeone piss on my face either but I love to “look” at hot bodies in tight leather. Most women “refer” to sex toys but never openly talk about them for fear of shame. I wish sex wasn’t viewed as such a “bad” thing if you enjoy it.
Comfort with our partners and bodies will lead to better sex - it isn’t an easy thing. Let’s all just go have GREAT sex this weekend to celebrate this blog post - thanks Duane :>)