Comments on: weekends should be longer

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 09:21:28 +0000

Hang in there Duane. I envy a lot of what you have and you do have a lot to be thankful for but having someone tell you like Amber said “it could always be worse”, or watching TV seeing someone with some horrible condition, doesn’t really matter when you have depression. I hate when people tell me that. Because yes there’s always people out there worse off than you and better off, but when you go to bed at night, it’s just you and your problem(s), and they are no more insignificant than anyone else’s.

By: Amber

Amber — Tue, 20 Jun 2006 04:04:16 +0000

Besides, like my Mom always says, ‘no matter how damn bad you think you have it, there are loads of people who have it a lot worse.’ I always try and remember that.

Well, if that works for you then more power to you, but those very words from my Mom are what gave me this massive guilt complex, and taught me to devalue my own emotional needs.

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 20 Jun 2006 03:44:22 +0000

I realized a long time ago just how fortunate I am. For that, I’m grateful. Besides, like my Mom always says, ‘no matter how damn bad you think you have it, there are loads of people who have it a lot worse.’ I always try and remember that.

By: Matt S.

Matt S. — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 23:36:16 +0000

It’s sort of human nature to always want more, no matter how fortunate we are, we all do it. Don’t feel selfish or bad, you’re a great person Duane!

By: Shan!

Shan! — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 21:33:30 +0000

I think I will do the same… but just for today. Tomorrow I want to go back to being an ungrateful bitch. Unless I really like the awesomeness of not being one.

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 19:55:55 +0000

I should be able to see the great things that I have, but it is almost like I am blinded by something I can’t control. I am powerless to keep it from overshadowing what is good in my life, and that sucks. I am doing what I can to get through it, but it is hard, and things like this just make me feel even more guilty.

You are blinded by something - it’s called depression! That’s a very apt description of what depression is like. And remember I say this as someone who’s had a history of clinical depression since I was a teenager.

I know where you are coming from w/ the guilt stuff. I always do my damnedest to fight those feelings off, bc I know they are irrational and unproductive, but sometimes they creep back. A therapist a few years ago asked me if I was raised Catholic, bc I had so much irrational guilt! I had to LOL at that. (And no, I was not raised Catholic!)

By: docjohnboy

docjohnboy — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 19:45:58 +0000

This weekend was a blast. I’m glad all the bloggers were there.

By: Eric

Eric — Mon, 19 Jun 2006 18:47:43 +0000

Honey, I used to have exactly the same thoughts. My mum had some VERY serious health issues that brought her to the brink of death several times during my childhood and she fought back from each and every one of them. Even having experienced this firsthand, I still find some myself struggling with dissatisfaction, depression, loneliness and extreme mood swings. I used to think that it was just hormonal (yes, guys get that too) or that I was just ungrateful for what I had done or accomplished in life. But you know what I started to realize? Each and every one of us has SOMETHING we’re fighting for or railing against. Some of us have debilitating medical conditions, some of us have mental games to play - and others of us fight depression. There’s no explaining it, its just the fight we each have to deal with. Give yourself the measure of respect for your battle as you would give someone else, honey. You’re worth it (and I, for one, am glad you survived the wedding - I have a lesbian wedding to go to on Saturday myself… And if Sebastian and I ever decide to get hitched, I’ll invite you and James so you two can show us all how y’all manage to drink so much! LOL)
Biggest hugs sweetie!