I know how you feel about throwing in the towel, but then I just can’t get over not having a “real” family. My younger sister and mother don’t speak with me, and I only have 3 cousins in the United States who I really don’t know.

I am in therapy, and what I have gleaned from all the hours and dollars is that I need to form a new family, whether that be by friends or even perhaps adopting a new family if I ever get married.

Maybe I’m a dreamer, and just hope that we can all sit by the fire, sip cider and just enjoy each others company when we all reunite during Christmas. I hope one day we all can, whoever our family is made of.

Thanks again for your blog.

I really enjoy reading your blog. Your post about your family absolutely broke my heart, and brought me to tears.

I am in a similar situation with my family, though I am a straight female. When I think about it a little too much, or even see cheesy movies with family in them I get so upset and, in away, kind of mourn my loss. It’s not that I am trying to feel sorry for myself. But, I guess my hope is that I can form a wonderful, loving family in the future where everyone feels accepted and valued.

Thank you for your perspectives.

keep your chin up, buckaroo.

Thanks for caring =o)

I didn’t mean to suggest that it would be simple, I was just curious what would happen if you brought it up full-frontal. I assumed there was some reason you weren’t doing that, and of course there was.

I don’t believe that you owe it to your family to stay in touch with them, to keep trying, or to even speak to them. I was just saying that I think it will be worth it to you, when they’re gone, to know that you made the effort even when they didn’t deserve it.

As far as “aren’t they suppost to be the parents”, etc., well yes. They are. But there are sure a lot of imperfect parents out there. The good news is that some of them are somehow raising kids who are better people than they themselves were.

I guess I’m only on this “what will you think when they’re gone” bent because my mother is now pretty much lost to me; she’s in a nursing home full-time and unable to move or take care of herself, and her mental functioning is severely reduced. She still recognizes me, but we can’t really have a conversation.

I don’t pretend to relate to your situation, my mom never shut me out the way you describe. I just wish I’d had the chance to get to know her better as a person (rather than just as a mom) while there was still time.

Anyway, you do have some great people in your life, your chosen family… but clearly your situation with your “blood” relatives is bothering you. Getting to know you somewhat through the pages of your blog, I don’t believe you’ll be happy or satisfied with the “just give up on ‘em” approach.

Wish you the best of luck however you decide to handle it!